Practical Steps To Sustaining A Relationship

The rate at which marriages collapse these days is alarming and calls for quick attention. Asopuru Okemgbo’s Pop The Question: Get Yes, Get Married provides some practical biblical steps Christians must observe in courtship or marriage to maintain the relationship.

Okemgbo did not just provide steps for maintaining a Godly relationship between spouses, but also gives guide to singles that are looking for life partners or intending to start courtship that could lead to marriage.

Pop The Question: Get Yes, Get Married is an inspirational piece with practical examples of biblical characters who followed some of these steps, and also those who rejected the steps and had to face the consequences of their action. Pop The Question: Get Yes, Get Married is written in ten chapters with 109 pages, and with few typographical errors.

The book is written in simple language, with some clichés as well In the ten chapters, Okemgbo advises singles and married on how to attain a successful relationship.

His focus in the first chapter is agape love, and he writes, “there are many people who have been deceived to believe that love is the emotional feelings you have towards someone, whenever they don’t have the feelings, they say I don’t love you anymore. He establishes that love is the firm foundation.

In the second chapter, Okemgbo advises singles to get premarital training to be fully equipped for the task, thereby providing names of some institutions that run such programmes.

In the third chapter, the writer advises both married and singles to seek the advise of a coach rather than depending on self-help when things get rough.

“Your coach must be born again and educated in matters of the word of God,” he writes. In the fourth chapter Okemgbo gives examples of places to meet a life partner, here he draws the reader’s attention to these bible characters: Isaac and Jacob.

The fifth chapter draws attention of the readers to do a background check of their partners before agreeing to marry them. The writer also uses Samson’s story in the bible to illustrate one of the consequences of failure to do a background check. Chapter six centers on sex and the writer believes that sex is a major issue between married couples, especially when both parties are not satisfied.

And among the singles, Okemgbo advises total abstinence, as he writes, “God wants you to live a pure life, keep yourself from sexual promiscuity.” Interestingly, chapter seven discusses the possibility of a woman proposing marriage. In the last three chapters, Okemgbo provides steps to follow in order to build and maintain a Godly and long lasting relationship.

More interestingly in chapter nine, he provides the five-finger steps to successful engagement commitment for both sexes. The writer concludes by showing the readers ways to increasing communication skills, according to him, “praying together is the fastest method of increasing intimacy in all relationships.”