Why relationship fails – Part 1
We have spent a very long time discussing the ways to position ourselves for the right partner. For further studies on this, you can get my book, “Positioning Yourself for the Right Partner.”
We want to spend some time from this moment to discuss the reasons why many relationships fail. Why many courtships does not metamorphose into holy wedlock. I need to say at this juncture that although we have many types of relationships, we want to narrow it down to courtship, that is, the relationship preceding marriage. It is true that friendship also fails, the master-servant relationship fails and some marriages do fail as well, but our focus in these series is not on marriage or mere friendship but courtship, a relationship between a fiance and fiancée or the relationship we enter into in preparation for marriage.
Although there are many reasons that make courtship fail, which also rightly applies to marriage as well but not in all cases. As we go on in these series you will discover that some of the things we shall talk about also apply to those who are married but some may not.
There are many reasons why courtship fails. Looking at the world today you will agree with me that marriages are even failing in this generation like never before let alone courtship. In those days no one envisages divorce especially among children of God but today it is not so. Divorce has become so rampant to the extent that the church is not even exempted. This is not to cast aspersion on anyone going through a divorce or in any way condemn those who are divorced. I need to say at this point that many had been through a divorce not by their own making or mistake. Although our messages sometimes can be correctional essentially it is to give us Biblical information that can put us on the right path. However, they are not meant to blame us or condemn us.
The first reason for the failed relationship that we shall consider is poor foundation or wrong foundation:
The subject of the foundation is critically important if you are truly interested in a relationship that will not only metamorphose into marriage but will end up in a blissful, happy, and fulfilled marriage. It is not enough to get married but staying married to the same person all the days of your life with joy and fulfillment is actually the most important thing that we must look forward to or work towards in our lives. Just like the foundation is critically important to any building, it is also important in any relationship. Foundation has to do with the beginning of the relationship. How you met your partner and how you started the relationship. Foundation actually starts from your level of preparation before the whole journey started. Talking about how you prayed, how you fasted and how you gave yourself to seeking the face of God, how you studied the word of God and read relevant books, how you attend seminars, conferences on the relationship, and more importantly how you received counsel and how you waited patiently for the appointed time to know or discover the right person.
Rev. Solomon Julius Ojigiri, Everwinning Faith Ministries Int’l
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