Two Sure-Fire Ways To Improve The Intimacy In Your Relationship
When you hear the word intimacy, what’s the first thought that generally comes to mind? Sex! Right?
There’s no need to lie!
You know I’m telling the truth. Unless you live under a rock or are generally one who lives in a fool’s paradise, you know that when the average person hears the word intimacy, the first thought that hits them is the act of sex and romance.
Intimacy isn’t only about sexual closeness.
It’s about closeness, period! For a marriage to thrive, all the pillars that make it up have to stand firm. You must be spiritually, socially, financially and physically intimate. The both of you must have true compatibility (Check out what this really means in the MarriagePrep Course), you must understand your expectations coming into the marriage, your responsibilities, be able to handle those ugly situations of conflict, communicate well, understand your finances all and of course learn what healthy sex should look like within the confines of your marriage. In order for these pillars to stand, intimacy between you and your spouse is key.
You can’t achieve a happy marriage without being close.
And how do you achieve this closeness/intimacy? Well, you and your spouse decide that you will:
Talk about everything – honestly, openly and without judgment.
When I say everything, I mean everything! The weather, work, the new recipe you want to try, your hobbies, your fears, your triumphs, your struggles, your prayers, your dreams etc. Communication is the lifeline of every relationship. Without a healthy culture of talking, listening and responding in your home, you and your spouse will never build the intimacy required as the foundation of a healthy marriage. A wise man once said, “You do not have to get close to your spouse first before you talk, you have to talk to get close.” What an eye-opener! That’s the only way. Wondering how you can fix the communication in your relationship and learn how to resolve conflict in a healthy manner? It’s very easy, look here).
Give your spouse the benefit of the doubt.
This is another way to cement your relationship and turn it into total bliss. First, when you talk about everything with your spouse and hold nothing back, it builds a sense that you are both a team and nothing can separate you. However, sometimes you aren’t so clear on the reasons your spouse might have responded to a statement, request, or action in a certain way…and you want to blow your top.
Before you blow, believe the best of them first.
They aren’t perfect and neither are you. So why do you expect that everything they say would be agreeable with you? Is everything you say agreeable with them? That’ll be a NO! Believe the best of them and then decide in your heart that you’ll hear them out. They in turn will feel respected and this builds the closeness between you two in a way that can’t be easily eroded.
Then…enjoy the best of your lives!
With these two steps in order, you will easily build the closeness between you both, causing the both of you to enjoy a blissful union forever.
Isn’t that what you signed up for when you got married?
Here’s to a renewed relationship built on complete intimacy.
ZeeZee is a certified Relationship and Marriage Coach who believes her purpose in life is to equip couples with the right tools for a successful relationship. Through her website and YouTube channel she shares practical tips and principles that help couples understand the inner workings of a healthy marriage.