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9 Tips To Have A Healthy Relationship

Every relationship is unique. People go into relationships for different reasons, some for fun and others for mutual connection and marriage. Despite these reasons, people who get involved, desire a  relationship where they are friends with their partner.

Bearing in mind that people have several mindsets when entering into a relationship, it is important to ask yourself, why are you in a relationship or going into a relationship. The reason for this is not far-fetched, there is no relationship without ups and downs. Compromise is important in a relationship.

Building a healthy relationship is like cooking, if you do not add a  traditional and necessary ingredient, it can change the taste of the meal. Below are the steps to take to build a healthy relationship:



The first step in building your relationship is to ensure that you are on the same page, that is, make sure you both understand each other, your needs and expectations. In a relationship, you have to learn to communicate well with your partner, as this helps you to understand who you are dealing with and how best to deal with them. Make your message clear and be sure your partner understands it.

Another vital point to note is that it isn’t just for you to talk but also listen. Listening, an effective communication skill will help your partner open up and be more honest. When you really listen, you’ll hear the subtle intonations in your partner’s voice that will tell you if something is amiss. It doesn’t mean changing your opinion but can help you resolve the conflict by looking at a common point of view.


Trust is a key component of a healthy relationship and the glue that binds relationships. Without trust,  there is a probability that your relationship won’t last long. If you don’t trust the process, chances are you won’t be totally involved in the relationship. While it is true that some battle with trusting others, it is something that they have to embrace and learn to do especially with themselves first. Whether it is friendship or relationship, all bonds are built on trust.

On issues surrounding trust, there are people who are not comfortable with the idea of a long-distance relationship. These set are of the opinion that this type of relationship can erode trust. However, there are success stories of people who were engaged in long-distance relationships. Learn to build yourself up with trust, it doesn’t matter if it’s a long-distance or close relationship. A relationship without trust is a time bomb. Trust means you can entrust your life with someone without looking back.


In a relationship, conflicts are unavoidable. However, you can come to an agreement in resolving it via compromise.. It helps balance you and your partner needs by considering both positions. Healthy compromise helps you and your partner grow together as a team. It shows you have a common goal in mind. Compromise isn’t selfish.


While people assume peace is an abstract term, it is something that many do not realise comes from within and is their willingness to allow it reign in a relationship. Apologies, admitting when you are wrong, making an effort to change and respecting your partner are key in a healthy relationship. If you want to have peace in your relationship, it starts with you.


Beautiful young Afro American couple is hugging and smiling while sitting together on couch at home


Love isn’t a feeling, it’s a choice also. The decision to stay in love or out of love lies with you. That stated, a relationship needs continual love. You can demonstrate it by giving out gifts, creating time for each other, shopping. Contrary to popular opinion, to win in love, it has to be a give and take situation. It is not only the responsibility of a guy but both genders can contribute to it and express love the way you can.

Contrary to the belief that acts of service should be done by the ladies alone, it should be done by both genders. A popular quote states, “ Actions speaks better than words.” You can start with things you know your partner or spouse would love and do it with a positive mindset and not out of obligation to him or her. You can express it by cooking a meal, doing the laundry, among others.

Word Of Affirmation

It doesn’t have to be complicated. You can use short sentences like your dress looks incredibly on you today! I love your hair today! You look gorgeous! Your smile is charming and also I love you, it can go a long way especially if your partner values love language.

Receiving of Gifts

You can pick out a lovely present for your spouse, that is meaningful.

Physical Touch

Nothing is more impactful than the physical touch of your partner. Some partners feel more connected and safe in a relationship by holding hands, hugging and kissing.

Quality Time:

This love language is about undivided attention. You need to dedicate your time to your partner without distractions.

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