Nigerian dancer and fitness coach, Kafayat Oluwatoyin Shafau, popularly known as Kaffy, has shared a painful childhood memory, saying her mother once stripped her naked and flogged her in the living room when she was 13.

The Guinness World Record holder shared the story on a recent episode of The Honest Bunch podcast, which was released on YouTube on Monday.

According to Kaffy, her mother, who was divorced at the time, dated different men, and she and her siblings only saw them as father figures. She said their mother, however, became insecure about how close they were to those men.

She said, “I was 13 when my mother started suspecting me with her own men. Because of the divorce she had kinds of people. She will have different men she is dating and we will see those men as daddies because we were also missing that father [figure].

“The closer you are to the men, the more she is insecure. And there was a day that I was stripped naked in front of that man in the livingroom and punished for just trying to help ‘daddy’ clean a blood from his face because he was shaving and cut himself. My mother walked into the room when I was saying, ‘Daddy, see.’ And she misinterpreted what was happening and I was flogged naked in front of everyone.

“That had it own traumatising effect on the mind on its own. But then you are thinking, ‘But that’s my mother, would I do that to my mother? Why would my mother even think of that of me, the daughter?’ Are you seeing that transfer of insecurity from mother to child? It’s done subliminally but it’s going to have its own effect.”

Kaffy, who is now a mother of two, said the painful ordeal left her struggling with insecurity for years but also pushed her to break free from what she described as “emotional abuse and blackmail” from her parent, in order to become who she is today.