The Marriage Institution – Part 6
Biblical marriage is a commitment to servanthood, friendship, and trust. It is a refining process with no conditional clauses attached, risky but when we apply ourselves to the terms of the inherent covenant, it can make life fulfilling for those involved. Resolute commitment to the Word of God can carry a marital relationship to keep it alive, even when the romantic feeling seems to be diminishing in some seasons of marriage. The total summation of married life entails a daily renewal of vows to your spouse. When couples don’t understand their marital season, they begin to exhibit insecurities, which can lead to irreconcilable differences and crisis in marriage.
How do we then judge maturity for and in marriage? Genesis 2:23-24: The commandment here is for a “man” and a “woman” to leave their parents, so marriage is not for boys and girls. It requires maturity in age as well as spiritual, social, mental, emotional, and financial development. Each party should be ready for parenthood that comes with the responsibilities of raising the next generation. Being emotionally balance is also necessary for “leaving and leaving” and other virtues required for marital stability.
A matured person within the context of marriage will be the one who can handle responsibilities, setbacks, and disappointments (Proverbs 24:10). Someone who is flexible, positive, responsive to change and can receive correction when necessary, not negative in criticism, not proud but meek, not a faultfinder but open hearted. A matured person is that one who has proven access to the wisdom of God in their individual walk, vulnerable about their weaknesses, trusting Him for grace to overcome them (II Corinthians 12:9). A matured person is someone living a productive life with a job or a business enterprise (Proverbs 24:27).
Therefore, the following life ingredients are essentially required for a successful marriage. Flexibility is the first golden rule, which ties together other cords. This simply means developing the ability to change or adapt to new changes that marriage will usher into the life of the marriage newbies. Empathy is another ingredient, which is the capability to consistently be responsive to the emotional, physical, financial, and spiritual needs of each other. The willingness to work through the varying challenges that are likely to emerge at the various stages of life (Proverbs 24:10). The openness to give and receive love from each other is another required composite needed for a successful marriage.
Each couple’s family of origin dynamics can impact the home either positively or negatively. So, the openness of mind to understand, embrace and cope with such background differences in marriage will go a long to strengthen the new family dynamics (Galatians 5:22) and lastly, the mastery of your communication skills through the art of active listening, use of words and other relational abilities can help strengthen the resolve to build a stable home for yourself and the society.
God still delights in everyone who embraces His principles to build a stable family in their generation.
Ayo Daniels is a healthy family passionate who writes from Lagos and will love to hear from you for questions, testimonies, or counselling: email@example.com