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When you meet your now married ex-boyfriend


Bishop Charles Ighele

I will never forget something that happened many years ago. However, I will tell the story in such a manner that those who know them will NEVER know whom I am writing about.

Personally, I do not enjoy talking or writing about people’s misfortunes, even if the people hurt me terribly in the past. Before this lady I am writing about got married, she had a boyfriend.

The man had a unique facial feature that stood him out in a crowd. This tall, very handsome man’s unique facial feature also made people take note of his girlfriends.


The friendship between this lady and the man, therefore, brought the lady into social limelight. But after a while, they went their separate ways. The man and the lady got married to different persons.

Shortly after her wedding, the lady had a quarrel with her husband, the type newly-weds trying to know themselves sometimes have. But this little disagreement turned out to be too big for the lady to handle.

And rather than find a way to handle the problem, she went into a “pity party.” She started pitying herself and thinking of how her boyfriend of old would have treated her in a kinder way. You know that thoughts are powerful.

An all-consuming thought has the potential to land you into the very thing you are thinking about. One day, this lady found herself in the office of her old boyfriend, who happened to be the first “real love” of her life. She found herself in the counseling arms of her ex-boyfriend.

And of course, old flames, old passions and old memories came back in overflowing currents and before they knew it, they committed adultery. They never thought such a thing could happen.

Let me talk more about the lady. She was and is a decent lady, who never had adultery as part of her thought life. She could, therefore, hardly forgive herself for doing such a thing.

She was the type that never wanted to mingle with any woman or man she considered immoral after she got married. But here she was; she had just committed adultery.

She went home feeling ashamed, dirty and guilty. She returned home with a vow that such a thing would never repeat itself again. She swore never to sit in the same room or be in the same car with her ex-boy friend again.

Shortly after, she got pregnant after over twelve months of marriage and gave birth. But the child looked exactly like her unique looking ex-boyfriend.

It was easy for everyone in that town who knew her ex-boyfriend to see that the child belonged to him and not her husband. Of course, that was the end of her marriage.

She learned her lesson the hard way that, when as a married woman you meet your ex-boyfriend, especially one you loved so much, you should stay away from him. 1 Thess 5:22 tells us to steer clear of everything that has the ability to make us do evil.

God wired the woman in such a way that she looks up to her man for emotional comfort and security. Therefore, some women feel confused about where to go for comfort, whenever their husbands abuse or neglect them emotionally.

But rather than think of how an ex-boyfriend would have handled you and then going to him to report your marital problems to him, it is better you go to a marriage counselor. Never take your marital problems to an ex. Love you.

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