Media personality and lifestyle entrepreneur Toke Makinwa has advised women to prioritize emotional maturity when selecting a life partner. Known for her frequent comment and relationship advice, Makinwa took to social media educate women on the qualities they should seek in a man, emphasizing the importance of conflict resolution and emotional safety.
She wrote, “Marry the man who calls you after an argument just to make sure you’re okay,”
“Not the one who leaves you alone with your tears. Choose the man who stays when things get hard and wants to understand you, not defeat you. A man who can pause, hold you, and say ‘I’m sorry’, because your relationship matters more to him than his ego.”She explained.
Over the years, Makinwa has transitioned from being merely a media personality to becoming a mentor of sorts for young women navigating the dating scene. She consistently draws from her personal history to warn against the danger of ego-driven relationships, often stressing that a partner’s ability to take accountability is a hallmark of true maturity. By sharing these insights, she encourages women to hold their partners to higher standards, arguing that a relationship should be a partnership of mutual growth rather than a battle for dominance.
Having navigated a highly publicized marriage that eventually ended in a high-profile divorce, she has become a vocal advocate for self-discovery and discernment. Her past relationship, which included a separation from her ex-husband, Maje Ayida, served as a turning point in her life. Makini often shares lessons on the necessity of emotional intelligence and the danger of ignoring red flags in the pursuit of companionship.
In 2025 Makinwa welcome her daughter Yaya.
As a devoted parent to her daughter, she has frequently spoken about the importance of modeling self-respect and healthy relationship dynamics. She has noted that the values she projects today are vital for guiding the next generation, ensuring that her daughter learns to recognize and demand the type of love that is nurturing and supportive.
