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Counsellor gives recipe to singles on happy marriage


[FILE PHOTO] Couple holding flowers

Concerned about complaints of singles and troubled marriages in the society, a counsellor, Dr. Tolu Oko-Igarie, has advised parents not to put pressure on matured singles to marry out of desperation.

She gave the advice at a Lagos Dating Party, which her pet project, Intimate Solution Network, organised for singles and couples to handle their challenges.

According to the chief executive officer, such pressure could create anxiety, sadness and depression in the lives of the ladies, explaining that the network is aimed at building a society of people who will hold forth the original intention of God for the marriage.

Oko-Igarie, while addressing singles, couples, widows and widowers at the party in Ikoyi, Lagos, said: “God is the originator and designer of marriage institution and should be kept honourable.

“Marriage is beautiful, but if you have not married, it is not the end of the world, as there is more to life than marriage,” she said.

She further explained that the platform also strengthens singles and couples in the process to engage and discuss the tips that others have used to fulfill their marriages.

She disclosed that this is the second edition of the dating party after the one in Port Harcourt. While promising to replicate the party in other states, she rated the Lagos show as recording 90 per cent success.

“Everyone desires to love and be loved in return, but finding lasting love can be a very difficult task,” she said, while counseling participants to socialise, mingle, and network among themselves.

She said, as a matchmaker with years of experience, she believed that her counsel would lead to having a happy and successful marriage, explaining that Intimate Matching Network applies the principle of temperamental and personality detection module to professionally, scientifically and prayerfully match couples.

The C.E.O. said the modules were developed over years of research on human relation and reaction, adding that her match making is 100 per cent confidential.

The marriage counselor believes that singles and bachelors could meet their spouses anywhere, whether through social- media, club, churches or public, provided that they know what they want and where to draw the lines.

She expressed concern that most couples are holding on to traditional, customs and belief of men, instead of the biblical counsel on marriage, adding that the man is recognised as head of the home, urging couples should listen, communicate and appreciate themselves.

“Couples should make themselves happy, because if marriage is facing a crisis, it does not mean that it is a failure, but a thing that can be fixed,” she added.

Oko-Igarie equally advised couples to work on their marriages, consult professional counsellors, while urging singles and married partners to provide, protect, appreciate their spouses, and continuously live in exemplary leadership.

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