Evidence of wrong relationship 2019 – Part 13
Relationship where your partner is not yet born again or he/she is not serious with God: Before you agree to marry anyone you must be sure of his/her relationship with God. It is not God’s will that any of His children should marry anyone that is not truly born again.
No matter how religious, generous or benevolent an unbeliever may be, he/she is still an unbeliever because he has no relationship with God. Do not claim that you love a man or lady or that the person loves you and cares for you if the person is not yet born again he or she is not qualified for consideration.
No matter the kind of person you desire to marry you will always come across such people in the body of Christ, among the true children of God. You cannot say there are not true children of God except if you are not one yourself. You do not have to go out looking for sons and daughters of Belial to marry.
The Bible says in 2Cor. 6:14-18 thus; Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? Or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? For ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk-in [them]; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean [thing]; and I will receive you, And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty (KJV)”
If you are truly a child of God you must never consider marrying an unbeliever. You must not deceive yourself that you will change or convert the person because that is solely the work of the Holy Spirit and not yours. It is not even advisable to marry anyone who claims to be born again but he/she is not serious with God. It is not enough that they are serving God you must know how he/she serves Him.
A man or a lady may pretend when you are there, just to get you but you will be able to discern if you are wise and sincere enough. But you are bound to fall, victim, if you are too desperate and you are not sincere in your relationship with God. Particularly ladies who have waited for a long time.
Usually, the devil will do everything to push a deceptive person to come your way just before a true and sincere child of God comes. Even when you discover that the person used to be a child of God but he/she has backslid, it is advisable you quit the relationship. You must not marry an unbeliever or a backslider. It is not difficult to know someone who is serious or unserious with God, especially if you also have a vibrant relationship with God.
Relationship where there is abuse, assault or regular fighting and disagreement: A man or a woman that beats you or slaps you cannot be the perfect will of God for your life. Jesus came to give us life and He wants us to have life in abundance (John 10:10). It is not an abundant life when someone beats you up or injures you. Constant fighting and regular disagreements should not even be taken lightly as “mere disagreement.” If it is becoming too constant, it can be evidence of a wrong relationship.
Some people erroneously believe that you cannot be very close to a man or woman without fighting. I believe there could be little disagreements along the line but that must be resolved amicably. But when it degenerates into something constant you must be very careful or back out of that relationship. If you do not agree on fundamental things like your faith life, giving, tithing or dedication to the things of God; where to live, what work to do, religion and the church to attend, etc. It is better to get out of such a relationship before you say “I do.”
God wants your life to be better than before, that is why He wants to give you a spouse, but when you perceive a signal that indicates a terrible future, you must get out of the relationship before it is too late. There are many women and even men who have died before their time because they were killed by their spouses. It is foolishness to have a fire on your roof and you go to bed. Some women and men are the devils in human skin and colour. We must be very careful, refuse to be deceived.
Most people that killed their spouses did not actually intend to do so but they committed the heinous crime because of uncontrollable anger and assault. You can never know what the end of an abusive marriage will be, but it is better to save your head before you enter into one. Even those who are already married we usually advise them to separate first if their partner is abusive. Some men too beat their wives because of what is usually called a middle-age crisis. Where they usually feel like their wives are the root cause of their problems. Such men need proper counseling and prayers.
Excerpt from my book “EVIDENCE OF WRONG RELATIONSHIP”