Some years ago, a young undergraduate wanted to see me after a Sunday service. When we got talking she told me that she is not beautiful enough. Right there and then, I beckoned on my wife, Carol, to come over and the first thing Carol said was “you are very beautiful.” Carol hadno idea of what we were talking about before she said what she said. I then told Carol that I have been battling with her for some time to make her know that she was beautiful and I called her to help me to talk to her.

I have found out that this is the problem of many female-singles and married. They think they are not beautiful enough and this makes many of them not to enjoy their life the way they should. Some young girls who think they are not beautiful enough have tried to make themselves accepted by the males by fornicating around with as many males as possible that come their way because they think that they are not beautiful enough to attract a quality male.

A lady who thinks that she is not beautiful enough unknowingly carries about with her that negative unseen energy that drives away good suitors and frustrates good husbands (that is, if the lady is already married). Sometime ago, a man had to break his engagement to a young lady. His reason was that the lady thinks that she is not beautiful enough despite assurances from the man that he loves her the way she is and that she is beautiful.

The negative spiritual energy the lady emitted was too much for this positive minded young man to cope with. He did not want to build his marital life on “Self Pity Street.”

Ehen, this reminds me of what a Bishop said some time ago. This Bishop will not ordinarily use the word ugly to describe anybody. But he could not help it as far as a particular lady was concerned. He said the lady was so ugly that when she came to him for prayers for her to have a husband, he could hardly pray because he felt no man will come. But the lady was so full of confidence and determination. Apart from being said to be ugly, she was about forty eight years of age. These two factors (her age and lack of physical beauty) are enough to kill the subduing spirit in many people; but not this lady. Her faith was intact and bigger than her physical and age disadvantage.

One day a very highly placed professional who had lost his wife and wanted a sweet spirited lady as his life partner proposed and married her. This man saw inher “a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great prize” 1 peter 3:4. He saw in her “beauty of the spirit,” which overshadowed the so-called ugliness others saw. Stop telling yourself that you are not beautiful enough. Instead look at the mirror, and keep releasing positive energy and keep saying: “I deykampe.”