Should children love or fear their fathers?
One of the areas, where as a marriage counsellor, I have found the largest percentage of dysfunctional relationships, is the relationship between the father and the child. In the average home, the children are closer to their mothers and prefer to crack jokes and spend time ....
The married man and the side chick
A day to the day when one of my grand-children was to celebrate his third birthday last year, he and his immediate younger brother were struggling over the ownership of a toy when they came visiting in my Lagos home. One of their care givers then told him to leave the toy for his younger…
While she is waiting to get married
I met my wife Carol for the very first time in my life, when she was twenty-eight, and I married her when she was twenty-nine.
Handling your parent’s weak moments
I am the first child of the twenty-one children by my father. Four other women had ten children for him, while my mother alone gave birth to eleven of us.
What can’t you do for your wife?
Here is a question. Can you wash your wife’s undies? This is one question that divides men. Some men see nothing wrong in washing their wife’s undies. Others find it difficult to answer this question. But there is a third group of men that will say “Never...
About twenty years ago, I bought a book written by a pastor about the relationship he had with his dog. He said the relationship was so close that if he should go out swimming and he swims too deep, the dog would swim after him and start pulling his legs as if “don’t go too deep.”...
Threatening your spouse, whether you mean it or not
A certain man and his wife were known to always quarrel to the point that each time they started, the children in the neighbourhood will be mimicking the things the couple will be saying. A child will tell the other “I will slap you if you open your mouth again.”..
Preparing now for sex at old age
It may surprise some people to know that there are some couples out there from above fifty-five years of age who are no longer interested in the sex aspect of their marital union. When you ask some why they are no longer interested, a likely response may be “forget that matter. We are already old.” Old for sex at seventy? Haba!