From a very young age, it is important as parents to help your ward learn how to
regulate their emotions. When children are emotionally stable, they know how to
handle different situations more effectively. A child who knows how to handle
their own emotions learn to relate with their peers better and express themselves
properly without feeling overwhelmed.

One of the best ways to manage your child’s emotions is teaching them that it is
okay to feel their feelings. When children feel sad, angry or disappointed, yelling
at them may only aggravate the underlying issue – sometimes what they need is to
be heard. Rather than using physical force, or returning their energy, try offering a
listening ear, and respond with a calmer approach. By doing so, you are helping
them understand that even though they are kids it is very normal to go through all
these different emotions.

In validating your ward’s feelings, remember to help them differentiate emotions
from behaviours. Help your ward learn that throwing tantrums are unacceptable.
Teach them that while it is okay to go through different emotions, it is also
important to help them find expression in a manner that is acceptable, and doesn’t
affect anyone else physically or verbally.

Discipline your ward when they try to break things or hit out at someone simply
because they feel angry, or use mean words when they feel sad or disappointed.
There is always a better way for children to express their emotions.
Lead by example. Do your kids see you manage your own emotions properly? Do
you vent out in frustration when something doesn’t go as planned. By now, you
should know that children tend to learn more from what they ‘see’ than what they
‘hear’. When you model effective control over your emotions, your children will
definitely follow suit.

Stay proactive – keep researching on new methods or techniques to help your child
manage their emotions. Make the most of online resources to hear success stories
and learn how they can apply to your child. Reach out to other parents, and have
them share techniques they use to help their children stay in control of their
emotions.

It is always very helpful to have a network of parents where you can get helpful
advice for different situations. Know when to seek professional advice from

licensed mental health personnel where necessary; especially when their emotions
prevent them from doing well in other aspects of their everyday life.