Looking Forward To A Happy Relationship This Year
IT is universally acknowledged that men want to make permanent their relationships in December, with the ones who live abroad, but who want to marry Nigerian wives, making frantic efforts to have relatives whom they trust their judgment to help them choose a charming beautiful damsel, if they cannot travel down themselves.
The ones who are here with us locally want to commit.
However, it has also been noted that all dumping happen at this time too, because some men develop the phobia of commitment and all responsibility that comes with deciding to settle down, especially when they feel they could still search the wider field of dating, so that those ones who have been thinking of calling it quits with their girlfriends may do so over the holidays.
Generally, it is assumed that they become unavailable because they want to avoid buying gifts for girlfriends.
Some men may be averse to spending money on anniversaries and may need you to convince them why they should buy so many gifts.
Some men complaints about festive periods; what a guy described as another opportunity to buy cloth.
Some though think there is no better time to show that they are not there in the long term, so when your friends are with their boyfriends, yours may give excuses or becomes unavailable.
Do you think the guy who stuck to you from March to mid-November, giving everybody the impression that he is for real, but disappears in December belongs to this category?
We sympathise if your answer to this is yes. But we congratulate you too for being alert and seeing through a sham relationship early, because your observation could help you to keep an objective mind, should you accept him back into your arms when he saunters back in after the holidays.
Yes, they do come back! Some on February 26, after Valentine season has blown over. And the real ones would give that present to show that you should not compete with your friends over whose present was bigger and better.
Women forgive and perhaps even forget the hurt when these sinful men come back. But it must be said that relationships like these, where he disappears at a time you should be together, holds not much prospect. A caring person would say, ‘darling, this is all I have to give you.’
He can explain that he does not believe in a fuss about festivals; would it not be exciting to know someone who knows his own mind?
I heard two guys discussing on December 19, last year. The story was that their boss had told them to help him end his present relationship.
“He wants us to sack the girl. He wants to marry next year” was the way the narrator put it.
What I gathered was that all of them worked together. The girl came for a test, did well and was employed. All of them knew when employment moved to an affair, which has been on for years.