MOST times, we do not even know when the men in our lives are telling us the truth or lying to us.
Most times, it is very easy for them to lead us on and at the junction, they just drop us off and leave us heartbroken and more confused.
We ladies need to start learning how to protect ourselves from these twisted, tricky little boys and only go out with real, authentic, honest men.

If you want to know if he is lying or telling the truth or you want to know if he truly loves you or is just playing with you or you want to know if he is really telling you the whole story or twisting the facts, then I am pretty sure you have had your fill of pranks over the past days, weeks or years from him.

So, for today’s newsletter, we will try and turn things around by talking about how to never get fooled again. By who? By the men who lie, cheat and play with your feelings.

Here is an example of an increasingly common way these men “fool” women: With Sex Videos
LAST year, I wanted to know why in the world would some women let their men film their lovemaking sessions. So many of us have suffered embarrassment on social media because of these videos.

I have seen quite a couple of these videos and once the relationship ends, especially when it ends badly, the guy gets his “revenge” on us by leaking the videos to the Internet.
These videos have led to women falling into depression. They have ruined women’s careers. They have forced women to move to different states, even countries to escape the embarrassment and humiliation.

The root cause of the problem is that men, especially insecure ones, want to film their sex sessions to feel “macho.”
Sadly, the women agree to do it because they “love” him too much to say “no” and end up being victimised.
In short, we get victimised by men who manipulate our feelings just to get what they want.
I plead with you ladies, do not become victims!

So, let us discuss how to spot a sneaky, manipulative man before becoming his next victim?
A good start would be by knowing the signs he is lying to you. Here is the most important thing to remember when it comes to love and dating: Actions Always Speak Louder Than Words! And his actions are the most obvious indication of whether he is trying to manipulate you.
For instance, here are common signs he is lying:
He says “I love you,” but he does not show it
Does he keep saying he “loves” you, but you still have doubts? Trust your instincts.

When a man truly loves you, his actions should make you feel 110 per cent at ease like you are his queen. When he is hot-and-cold, be careful. He might be a player who only loves you when he is in the mood.
He makes you do things you are not comfortable about
What are you not comfortable about? Kissing in public? Fondling? Having your lovemaking sessions filmed or shot or perhaps something else?
It is about you and your comfort levels. If he really loves you, he is careful about offending you or making you feel uncomfortable. In fact, he would never put you in a compromising spot.

So, if he insists on doing things you are not comfortable about and if he makes you feel guilty if you do not comply, it is a sign he does not really love you.
His stories change
Let us say he tells you a certain story now, but a few weeks or months later, he tells you the same story again, but this time, the details of the story change.

For instance, when he tells you he has only had three ex-girlfriends before you then, a few months later, mentions he had five.
Or when he tells you that he only met that other woman for a chat then, a few weeks later, absent-mindedly mentions that they went to a bar.
What does that mean? There is a saying that goes: “Liars must have good memories.” And fortunately for us, most dishonest men do no.
And when you catch him changing his stories, it means he is hiding things. And if he is hiding things, it means he does not really trust you.

My advice would be for you not to trust him either. Simple!
I am sure most of you wonder why men lie. At the beginning of your relationship, men say the same nice things. After all, he is trying to win your heart. He has to put his best foot forward. That is the reason why it is dangerous to fall in love with him too early.

You are not exactly sure if he is 100 per cent honest and you are not exactly sure if he really loves you, too. And when you fall in love with a dishonest guy, you are in big trouble. You leave yourself wide open to abuse, manipulation and emotional blackmail. And you tend to do crazy things you will regret for the rest of your life.

So, my suggestions would be:
1. Leave him and start dating better, more honest, more relationship-minded men.
2. Turn the game around, make him chase you and make him change his ways.

No matter what you choose, your key to happiness is the same: You have to know the signs that he is lying to you and you have to know the signs that he truly loves you and values you.

This is because once you know a man’s tricks, once you know the rules he plays by, once you can spot the signs, then you will always be the winner.

I know it can be a challenge, especially because dishonest men have so many “tricks” up their sleeves and it is not always easy to spot them, especially when you are very much in love with him.

Once you can deal with it and learn how to change his ways, it will not matter whether you are dating a good man or a bad one, because the end will always be the same: A happier, stronger, more grounded relationship for you, either with him or with a man who will deserve you.
Do not wait until you get fooled again. Spot the real men early on.
To the loving relationship we all deserve, good luck in love and life.