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What Has Sex Got To Do With It?

By -E.C. Samuel (08027173447)
02 January 2016   |   12:30 am
ONE of the mysteries of intimate relationship is the physical natural appeal towards each other. Sex is something important in life. For those of us that understand the Bible, we know God is not against sex, but God wants sex to fulfill its purpose. Good things are usually abused. The rules around sexual relationship are…

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ONE of the mysteries of intimate relationship is the physical natural appeal towards each other. Sex is something important in life.

For those of us that understand the Bible, we know God is not against sex, but God wants sex to fulfill its purpose.

Good things are usually abused. The rules around sexual relationship are for our safety. Someone once asked if people would ever marry if there were no need for sexual gratification.

If there is any other way of having children, without intercourse and the pleasure it brings, who would marry? God is wiser than we are.

Sex is not made for siblings because of they are already united and share a bond of blood. But in marriage, sex is needed to establish the bond, the oneness, and the ‘unity of flesh

When we marry, our spouses become part of the family where we come from. Sex is how they join the bond. At that point, they are no more strangers.

This is one purpose of sex. It is not just to ease of tension or emotional pressure; it is deeper than that. God frowns at sex when it is used or shared amongst persons without such goal. When you just have sex so as to show dominance or control or purposeless passion, we cause plenty troubles.

Sex is sweet, but we wonder why most of the incurable are linked to sex. Why do we have to fear what we are meant to enjoy? There is a purpose for sex.

Heartaches, breakups, hatred, enmity and several other ills stem from the abuse of sex. And like we advise, he must not eat his tongue. Our sexual desires are beautiful, as I must emphasise. Between people of the vow (marriage), sex should be regular. It foster emotional health and stabilises the relationship.

If we really value what we share with each other, we won’t manipulate each other. And we advise that when you have sex with your spouse, your major goal is to satisfy her or him. You should look at your partner after sex and feel good and talk and reassure each other of love and loyalty.

Never make your spouse feel dry, empty and starved. Take your time; be tender in your toughness. Seek to reach the heart what you are doing with the body.

Learn love-making after sex. After the exhaustion, then is the actual intimacy. Do you care for your spouse? Do you talk about each other, dreams, goals and just have fun? Sex means a lot. And no matter how disciplined a person is, our easy tempting moment is when we don’t feel loved or appreciated anymore.

Everybody needs love. Even when your spouse is above 50, they want to be treated as if they were teenagers. Don’t expose your spouse and make him or her begin to wish for something you could have made available, from someone else.

Listen to their complains. Know exactly what will make them happy. Sex will then be overhauling and fulfilling.

Sex with guilt and unfaithfulness is destructive. It takes something away from that union. Try to keep the integrity of your heart. Keep your vows.

Temptation, may come, but look beyond it. Every temptation is as negative as it sounds. Look beyond its lure. You can pass. Anytime you make love with your spouse with the consciousness of how you have betrayed the union, something dies gradually.

Another simple advice I will give to couples is that though you should have sex as often as possible, never use it to settle a quarrel. Never use sex to manipulate your partner, as it would lose the bondness and thrill of oneness it represents. It will not be as good as it used to be.

If there is an offence, resolve it. Dialogue and discuss intelligently. Never use romance, kisses or sex to make your partner forget what you have done. It will be a great mistake.

-E.C. Samuel (08027173447)
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