RE- I Made A Horrible Mistake With My Lovely Wife?
CONFLICT is inevitable in every relationship, marriage inclusive, so she should try to understand.
As for you just keep petting her, and as you have done what you never did before on a negative note, you reverse the case by trying something very different and positive with her that you have never done before.
I am sure with time, she will let go all the hurt and you guys will come back together and better. Take care.