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Stop giving away your power!


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I recently came across a certain video post featuring a triggered business owner who was visibly upset (on camera) and a customer who was documenting his reaction to the interaction(s) they had earlier.

Unfortunately, because of the way social media and the new age technology are set up, documentation and publishing are at everyone’s fingertips, the video was shared online and no one really knows (as at the time of writing this) the real story behind such.

According to various tweets and reactions to said video, the triggered businessman was way out of line to some, while to others, the customer didn’t post the whole thing, thereby may have triggered and pushed for the reaction she received, regardless of how calm she sounded in the situation. This got me thinking about how easily we give away our personal power especially when it has to do with handling/resolving conflicts.

Listen; If you’re triggered and you have to engage, take responsibility. Accept that it’s totally up to you to manage your emotions, regardless of how other people behave. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in life it’s this – refuse to allow other people’s behaviour dictate your emotions.

I’m also learning every day, that establishing healthy boundaries really goes a long way. If something isn’t sitting right with you about a certain situation, fix it or walk away. Lately, I’ve been having conversations with phenomenal young women and one of them said something during one of our conversations that applies this topic… “When you meet someone with low vibrations, don’t go low with them, maintain high vibrations and let them rise to meet you where you are.” Michelle Obama said something similar too and in her words, “when they go low, we go high (and stay there)”.

A quote from an unknown author states: “ The one who angers you controls you, don’t give anyone that power, especially the ones who do it intentionally.”

As you end your reading and flip the page, remember that one minute of giving your power away could cost you a lifetime of fixing the damage that could have easily been avoided in the first place.

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