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6 Ways To Bond With Your Mother-In-Law

By Odunmorayo Oke

30 July 2024   |   11:58 am

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It is a common occurrence for there to be tension between wives and their mothers-in-law. Oftentimes, this is because the mother-in-law still wants to maintain her central role in her son’s life, even as he has started his own family. She may feel threatened that the wife is going to replace her spot and take…

It is a common occurrence for there to be tension between wives and their mothers-in-law. Oftentimes, this is because the mother-in-law still wants to maintain her central role in her son’s life, even as he has started his own family. She may feel threatened that the wife is going to replace her spot and take away her son’s affection towards her.

While this dynamic does not happen to everyone, mothers-in-law and wives need to maintain a cordial harmonious relationship. After all, she is still family and she’ll forever be a significant figure in your life and your children’s lives in years to come. Developing a positive bond will make family gatherings and events much more enjoyable for everyone.

In this article, we shall look at six things you can do together with your mother-in-law to help foster a stronger bond:

1. Cook together

The kitchen is considered the heart of the home, and since women usually prepare most of the meals, cooking together can be a great way to bond. Use this as an avenue to learn new recipes, tips, and techniques. Additionally, cooking side by side is a shared experience that allows you to connect over food.

2. Include her in activities

Make a conscious effort to include her in some of your regular activities, such as outings, holidays, shopping, trips, or movie nights. This does not need to be constant, but showing her that you value her presence will go a long way. Also, it’ll make her feel included and appreciated as part of the family.

3. Ask about her life

Show genuine interest in your mother-in-law’s personal life experiences. Ask her about her upbringing, career, passions, hobbies, and how she met her husband. Showing genuine curiosity about her life story will encourage her to open up to you. In addition, it will help you to understand her better as a person.

4. Plan a one-on-one outing

After getting to know her interests, plan a special outing or activity for just the two of you. This could be anything from visiting a restaurant she enjoys to gardening and even a spa day. Spending quality time together, without other family members, can strengthen your bond.

5. Be understanding

Accept that your mother-in-law has lived her life and is most likely already set in her ways. Try to understand that she may have a hard time letting go of her role as the primary woman in her son’s life. Oftentimes this desire is not to spite you, rather it is coming from a place of love and affection. Be patient and understanding as she adjusts to your place in the family.

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6. Communicate openly

If any issues or tensions arise, communicate them respectfully and openly. Avoid passive-aggressive behaviour and sort problems out immediately. Finally, ensure to communicate with your spouse and keep him informed on the relationship between you and his mother.