Is my past haunting me?

I am in my early 30’s. I am single. But, there is a guy I have been dating for a while. I love him very much. However, I had sex with his older brother 10 years ago. His brother and I messed around twice for money, and then afterwards, we have remained as friends. We always talk once a week or so.

Then, I met the younger brother at a family party. We talked and texted that night, only to hook up later that same night. Now, six months later, the whole family knows. The older brother keeps asking our mutual friends what they think about our relationship.

Now, it’s just a big headache. But, I and the younger brother do care about each other. We really didn’t think of it as a big deal. I stopped calling the younger brother, but he still calls and wants to hang out with me. I am sick of going back and forth with his family, because he tells me what they talk behind my back. Something that was supposed to be a fun fling turned wrong. –

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I suspect her for no reason

I am a 27-year-old guy. I have been in a relationship with this girl for about a year. She is 25. But, prior to our relationship, we were best friends for about two years. For the period I have known her, she has never done anything awful, never cheated on me, to the best of my knowledge, never flirted with any other guy. Nothing ever. I have never done anything of such either. I am naturally a very loyal person, be it a relationship or friendship. But, I am also a very insecure, very jealous, very protective, and slightly a controlling person. I have had past experiences, when I was in what you would call a serious relationship, where my partner cheated on multiple times and I did not find out until the relationship ended. This is the root of my jealousy and having trust issues. My question is: How can I treat my anxiety and anger? How can I trust without being hurt in the end?