Making your spouse look attractive at home

For about two weeks running my wife, Carol was not looking her best in terms of physical appearance. Since we got married in 1986 she had always tried to look her best in terms of how she dresses at home and takes care of her hair even when the wig is off. She likes dressing well and looking good. Even when we did not have enough resources in those days, she used very little of the little resources we had to make cheap but good looking dresses.

Once in a while, however, there have been occasions when I have lovingly and sweetly told her to step up with her physical looks at home. Carol and I agree on one fact. The fact is that we wonder why people do all they can do to dress well and look physically attractive when going outside the home. But at home, they have not developed the neuro pathway in their brains of how to almost always look attractive to each other and their children. Carol and I have developed this sense.

But for about two weeks, I noticed that after she has removed her beautiful wig and changed her clothes to house wears after some out of home events she always puts on house wears made of good materials but not fitting enough. I had to sweetly tell her some days ago words like, “you know you are a very beautiful woman and I want your beauty to shine forth more and more by changing into better fitting house wears and have a better facial look when the wig is off.”

I normally advise my daughters that just because they have different beautiful wigs that can make them look highly facially beautiful does not mean that they should keep their natural hair unkempt and unattractive. I have taught them that I know that there are times a woman has to go under the dryer in the saloon to make her hair and there are also times that she may wear wigs. But this does not mean that the natural hair should not be kept at its attractive best.

I have told them that the difference between when the wig is on and when the wig is off should not be like night and day. I tell them that, beauty attracts and that over 90 percent of husbands all over the world like beauty and are attracted to beauty.

So immediately, my darling Carol, who always likes to look good (at home and outside the home) swung into action. She first of all put in shape her wig wearing natural hair. A few days later, she made a non-wig wearing hairstyle. When I saw her in the morning, putting on house wears with the hairstyle on her head; she looked very attractive to me. And I told her “I like what I’m seeing. If not that today is Saturday…” I ended the statement there and she smiled and blushed. Someone may want to ask, “Bishop, what did you mean by if not that today is Saturday?”

You see in our work as preachers and teachers, if you are really serious with this work, you will know that Saturdays are not the days for kissing and romancing your spouse. You should be hundred percent focused in prayers and other forms of preparations to deliver the word of God and to pray for the needs of the souls God will bring to church the next day (Sunday). But to be “Frank and Cecilia” if not that it was on a Saturday, I would have hungrily kissed Carol. You see, I used to kiss her even when she was not making the best but I did not start those kisses hungrily. It was when she looked more attractive that I started the kisses more hungrily. The same Carol but differently packaged. I know you will agree with me that if you go to a store and you see two similar products of the same quality and the same price but one is better packaged than the other, you will certainly buy the one that is more beautifully packaged.

With these many words of mine, I hereby round off by gently but seriously suggesting to couples that they should always make themselves attractive for each other in the kitchen, in the living room, in the bedroom and everywhere in the house. This is one of the ways to put more positive fire into your love life and make your marriage like a beautiful colour television instead of black and white television. I rest my case. Love you!